Thursday, March 23, 2006

Marriages are made on Earth!

I came across this wonderful little story....Just read on...

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness. I am a sentimental woman
and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
'Why?' he asked, shocked.
'I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!' I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him?

And finally he asked me:' What can I do to change your mind?'

Somebody said it right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : 'Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?'

He said:' I will give you your answer tomorrow....'
My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy
handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, 'I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..' This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading..... 'When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your 'good friend' approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your Tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face... Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die..'

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... and as I continue on reading..
'Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...

I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread.... Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

Hmm, That's life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the dullest and boring form... Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... and that's our life... Love, not words win arguments...

So, 'A soul mate is the one with whom you could sit with without saying a word and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you have ever had'.

Thus the story ends..

I must say that with me into a good job now, my parents keep suggesting that I should get married. And me being me, had innumerable doubts about the same....as to how is it that two people who could be right or wrong for each other get together in a bond that spans a lifetime? What if you realise that you are two right people but wrong for each other, after you are well into the commitment of marriage...what will happen then, when you are stuck with someone whether or not you like......etc...
But this story came as a real eye-opener about various things and quietened most of my turbulent doubts...
Any man/woman who respects the solid value of things will not be able to overlook this aspect of love that the story highlights!! Its so true that just bcoz the ostentatious part of love has ceased to exist, the deeper emotions can't be deemed as dead.....Rather, we don't need to flash it around with neon light since the true-love underneath has grown solid, steady and strong!!:))

Happy living, better understanding!;))

8 Comments:

At 9:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Yuva here,
The story really inspired my view towards LOVE.Though the context of the story was only the love between a couple, but i think that it applies to other relationships even.It was an eye opener to most of my stagnant ideas.
LOVE ALWAYS LIVES

 
At 9:09 PM, Blogger VineethaAthrey said...

@Yuvi:
U certainly have a point there..Monotony always sets in every relationship, but its upto us to not throw away precious things & experiences just bcoz they are old or have been around for sometime now!:)

 
At 5:36 AM, Blogger Pradeep said...

Yes, indeed a touching piece of story. Though my view on LOVE is very flippant, i dont deny respecting the value of the real care and love. This story, which dipicts the facts- can be an illustration for essance of relationships.

 
At 9:13 PM, Blogger PrincessPerfection said...

wow.... that is a great story... us girls can go crazy sometimes about men... why can't we just chill out and know that they love us?

 
At 11:29 PM, Blogger VineethaAthrey said...

@Pradeep:Mmmm... Yeah! Things tend to be flippant when we don't know through experience their true value..I guess time is the best clearer of doubts!

@Princess Perfection: Welcome back! Its been a long time..
I just read ur post.... Hope is the only thing that keeps life alive.We live with the gratification that there are a few ppl to whom we matter, few who love n care for us..its imp. to keep that flame burning.For our sake n for that of the other person.
Joie'-De-Vievre!!!

 
At 6:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

awesome story....

saurabh ketkar

 
At 12:39 AM, Blogger Abhijit K. Rao said...

Wonderful piece of Post ! I hope more and more people read this and understand love is more than a just bunch of flowers and beach walks..

 
At 1:11 AM, Blogger Abhijit K. Rao said...

good one !!

 

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